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(1) Working out of your season of life
(2) Doing too much/too prideful to say you really can’t do everything you want/think you should be able to do
(3) Working out of your strengths—trying to be like someone else or wanting to have talents that you don’t really have
Donna Reish, of Raising Kids With Character parenting seminar and blog, and Character Ink, brings you this weeks podcast episode, Overcoming Obstacles in Parenting. In this episode, Donna describes several obstacles that keep us from moving forward in our parenting. She offers some insight into these and how they affect our parenting. Finally, she offers action steps to help us overcome these obstacles.
(1) To your child, it can feel like he is being ganged up on—or that he is not as loved because there is so much “negative” in the form of training, punishment, consequences, etc. You want to be sure you are combating this with attention, affirmation, encouragement, heart engagement, and many positives.
(2) Keep these ten tips close-by to be sure that you are staying close and connected when he feels less than positive about the changes and expectations.
(3) While it might not be possible during these intense times to follow a certain protocol (i.e. three positives for every one negative; ten affirmations for every negative feedback/correction, etc.), it is still important not to have a negative environment in which every thing is about the training, changes, and expectations.
Triff. Not a word you hear just every day. But a word, nonetheless. Because I said it is! 🙂
Many years ago, early into my cottage class teaching of homeschoolers, I had favorite words/sayings that I made up to write on kids’ papers.
Two phrases really–
If a student got one of these marks on their paper that week, they knew that they had done a great job.
Donna Reish, of Character Ink Press and Raising Kids With Character Parenting Seminar, bring you this Wondering Wednesday podcast episode in which she discusses ways to keep your family and your children close during intense training times. This episode follows the three previous ones about the 4 D’s of Behavior, Dealing With Heart Issues of Tweens, and Character Training of Routine Behaviors. Donna gives 10 tips for affecting your child’s heart and staying close in your relationship during times of intense training. She describes some of the things that you must consider that your child is feeling during this time as well as the effect that this could have on your entire family. She gives some practical suggestions for keeping things fun, upbeat, and unified even during difficult times and behavior problems.
Listen to the podcast here!
1) Kevin Leman’s book Making Kids Mind Without Losing Yours—introduction to Reality Discipline
2) Link responsibility with privilege—get the responsibility level up to the ability level. (Read “The One Parenting Practice That Changes Everything.”)
1. Be sure you understand the Four D’s of Behavior—the seriousness of them, the effect that they have on a child’s future relationships/life, the difference in handling them compared to character/routine training. (Listen to The Four D’s of Behavior; listen to Dealing With Heart Issues of Tweens.)
