by Donna | Mar 29, 2011
“You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” Deuteronomy 6:7
In keeping with a potential model in II Peter 1:5 as a basis for our how days would flow: “But also for this reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, and to your virtue, knowledge,” we started our kids’ days out with faith. This included private devotions, family devotions, read alouds, etc. through the years. Over the next couple of days I will give some ideas for this.
Today I will focus on Bible reading together in the mornings. I have expounded over the past year on much of the teaching that we received twenty-plus years ago from Gregg Harris (father of Josh Harris of “I Kissed Dating Good-Bye” and Alex and Brett Harris of “Do Hard Things”) in his “The Christian Homeschool Workshop.” One of the things that he taught us was to attach things that we want to implement in our homes to something that is already in our schedule, beginning with meal times.
We took his advice on this (and many other things) and came home and attached Bible teaching to just before breakfast—when we “rise up.” This has looked different all the time—some of the time Ray did it before work (and the kids went back to bed after he left!); some of the time I did it before breakfast; some of the time I did it during breakfast; some of the times we snuggled in my bed and read Bible and character materials before starting chores and the busy-ness of the day.
One of the downfalls of so many people out there telling us how to teach our children the Bible, how to have devotions, etc. is that it is often made to seem much more difficult than it is! (There are way more benefits, but this is definitely a downfall in our opinon.)
Tomorrow I will list many of the morning devotional ideas that we have used—some are as simple as reading a Proverb and talking!
by Donna | Mar 25, 2011
“You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” Deuteronomy 6:7
In keeping with a potential model in II Peter 1:5 as a basis for our how days would flow: “But also for this reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, and to your virtue, knowledge,” we started our kids’ days out with faith. This included private devotions, family devotions, read alouds, etc. through the years. Over the next couple of days I will give some ideas for this.
One of the things that I consider to have been successful in our home over the past twenty-eight years is the fact that, for the most part, we have had the same basic schedule during the first two hours of every week day, year round, our entire lives. When I say basic schedule, I am not talking about time schedules (i.e. 7:00-7:20 personal devotions; 7:20-7:45 family devotions; etc.) but rather I am describing a lifestyle of starting each day with faith and character—whether it is November, April, or July. I think we do kids a disservice (whether homeschooled or not) by allowing them to stay up until the wee hours of the night and sleep in til noon all summer. That is not real life at all—and promotes bad habits.
So, what is “faith teaching” in the morning?
It could mean, and has meant, many things for us, including, but not limited to:
1. Bible reading together
2. Praise music playing
3. Bible audios playing
4. Reading from a devotional or other book together
5. Reading from character books together
6. Each child reading his or her own devotional or Bible
7. Discussions, of course, discussions…
More on ideas for some of these later. Be sure to teach at the key times listed in Deuteronomy 6—um…all the time, that is!
by Donna | Mar 25, 2011
“You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” Deuteronomy 6:7
One of the ways that we tried to show the children the importance of spiritual and character training in our home throughout our twenty-eight years of parenting was to put spiritual training and character training first in our day.
We used the model in II Peter 1:5 as a basis for our how days would flow: “But also for this reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, and to your virtue, knowledge.”
From this verse, we taught our children and tried to manage our home in a way that reflected this—that we should put “faith” first in your life—spiritual training in our homes in the case of a family. And we should put virtue second—character training in the Christian home. Then we should put knowledge—or education.
Now, we are dedicated homeschoolers (we began twenty-eight years ago this fall by teaching my younger sister at home each day)—and we followed this pattern for our daily schedule and our prioritizing all of our school years—with tremendous success. Education (knowledge) was never considered low—but it simply came after faith and virtue. And our children’s amazing academic success has proven that this strategy did not hurt them one bit. (Our oldest son tested out of his entire college degree except for two classes for which there were no exams available. Our next child, a daughter (with severe dyslexia and dysgraphia) who is now a missionary nurse, received perfect verbal ACT scores two times and received full ride academic scholarships for all three colleges she attended. All of our kids have taken college classes during their junior and/or senior years of high school. Yep, this approach benefits academics too!)
What exactly does this “faith first; virtue next; knowledge next” approach look like in a family’s daily life? Join us tomorrow for the answer to that question!
by Donna | Mar 24, 2011
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words, which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” Deuteronomy 6:5-7
Okay, so I’ve used this verse like a half dozen times over the past fourteen months of the Positive Parenting blog. And I am using it again! This time, however, I am going to use it over the next few weeks to share with you many of the ways that we have implemented character training/spiritual teaching.
I will be breaking the time frames/teaching opportunities down to chronological orders, giving ideas for teaching during those times. We have had deep learning times, many life lessons, intimate relationships, and, most of the time, wonderful fruit, from our times with our children over the past twenty-eight years. I hope you will join us as we share dozens of these over the coming weeks!
Sneak Preview
WHEN YOU RISE UP
-Character building chore times
-Family devotions
-“Morning read aloud”
-schedule/daily disciplines
-Snuggle, rock, and read
-Schedules that put God first
WHEN YOU SIT IN YOUR HOUSE
-Story time
-Organization/upkeep
-Discussion
-Questions
-Listening together
-Daily fruitfulness
-Parenthetical Parenting
-Expectation Explanation
-Teaching like Jesus
-Reading together
-Games
-Prioritizing it—making the time to “sit in your house”
-“Good report” time
-Songs/sayings to build relationships
-Family worship
WHEN YOU WALK BY THE WAY
-“Who has shoes on?”
-As you drive down the road
-Who had good character?
-Daddy talks
-Meal times
-Car talks
-Twalks
-Terrific Tuesdays and Wonderful Wednesdays
-Movie and book talks
-Teachable moments
-“Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”
-Listen more than you talk
-Phrasing your teen talk
-Appearance is reality
-Singing together
WHEN YOU LIE DOWN
-Malachi time
-Bible talks
-Bedtime stories
-Tying heartstrings
-“Get this teenager out of my room!”
-The eyes are the windows to the soul
Thanks for joining us! We love helping families!
by Donna | Mar 15, 2011
Since the language arts curriculum that we write is based on character qualities, we have a handy little Character Quality and Overview “Chart” to help parents teach character in their homes.
This “chart” goes character-trait-by-character-trait (twenty-four in all) with some handy information for implementing character training in Christian homes–regardless of whether you homeschool or not and regardless of whether you use our language arts curriculum or not.
Here are some cool things these character quality overview charts have:
1. Character Quality listed at the top of each chart
2. Key verse that goes with that quality
3. Sermon on the Mount Scripture focus that points to that quality
4. Related character qualities–those that are similar and those that are opposite
5. “Detailed Areas of Study in This Unit”–this details some of the stories, characters, science and nature areas, historical figures, missionaries, Bible people, etc. that our language arts curriculum focuses on in that monthly unit–but for those wanting to use this as a character quality study/overview, it lists songs, books, topics, etc. that you might do during your study of that character quality (especially biographies, Bible characters and stories, books to read, etc.)
6. Bible passages–these are listed in the margin and are passages of Scripture that you may read together as a family, etc. for devotions
7. Bible characters-this is a list of Bible characters that did or did not exhibit that quality
8. Materials Available Through Training for Triumph–these are books and additional materials that we carry about that character quality
This is a great resource for gathering items to study character! Homeschoolers can print off eight of these for the eight qualities that they would like to focus on during the eight months of the school year, take this to conventions with you–and get read alouds, etc. to go with your character studies.
Non-homeschoolers can have verses and Bible characters at a glance to read from for quick devotions, etc.
When you go to the link below, be sure to scroll down a few pages to the first of the twenty-four qualities.
https://www.tfths.com/docs/ch18cq&ca&os.pdf
by Donna | Mar 8, 2011
Continued from last post…
3. Decide ahead of time what your “behavior absolutes” are.
a. These are the behaviors or character that you absolutely will not allow in your home. What you allow now will become the “acceptable behaviors” to your child. These seemingly innocent actions include “fibbing,” hitting, running the other way when called, etc.
b. For us, these “behavior absolutes” included talking back (no toddler saying “no” without being punished); lying or deceit; temper tantrums; and striking (hitting, pulling hair, throwing things at someone, etc.). Obviously, we wanted our kids to learn to obey and submit to us and to learn the many character qualities that are crucial to living a Christian life, but these four things were things we never wavered on—and things that we made huge deals out of when they were not adhered to by the toddler/preschooler.
4. Start showing your little one the joy of doing what is right. Contentment in your own life, the blessing of work, the joy of loving God and His people—and all of the character that you want your little one to adopt in his life—love, longsuffering, diligence, responsibility, and more will more likely be realized in our kids’ lives when we ourselves embrace and model them.
5. Try to establish routines that will aid in his character development—bedtimes, rising times, little “chores” (putting his books in his book basket after you read), nap times, meal times, story time, etc.
For more tips on toddlers and babies, click on the links provided below:
Who makes the decisions for the children—starts here and goes for a few days: https://positiveparenting3-6-5.blogspot.com/2010/10/day-260-who-makes-decisions-for.html
Say what you mean—starts here and goes for two days: https://positiveparenting3-6-5.blogspot.com/2010/09/day-248-dont-leave-your-little-one-at.html
Storytime: https://positiveparenting3-6-5.blogspot.com/2010/07/day-204-story-time.html
