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Podcast: Dealing With Heart Issues of Tweens

Donna — Thu, 08 Oct 2015 21:09:37 +0000

Donna Reish, of Raising Kids With Character, Homeschooling With Character, and Character Ink publishing, answers questions readers have been posing about handling 4 D types of behaviors (heart behaviors) in children ages eight to fourteen or so (primarily tweens). Donna emphasizes the need for parents to take responsibility for their parenting mistakes first. Then focus on taking the behaviors from gray to black & white so that misbehaviors are clear and can be handled. She gives an important order/protocol to make things very black and white with this age group for three typical misbehaviors, disrespect, disobedience, and fighting. Additionally, she gives suggested signaling words and phrases to use when these behaviors come up so that things are crystal clear as to the family expectations and handling of these things. (Listen to the prequel to this podcast episode, “Understanding The Four D’s of Behavior.”)

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Podcast Handout For “Understanding the Four D’s of Behavior in Our Children”

Donna — Fri, 02 Oct 2015 14:30:32 +0000

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FOUR D’s OF BEHAVIOR: Heart-motivated behaviors that should not be grouped with childish behaviors but should be tended to in a consistent and heart-affecting manner.

D-1: Disrespect
D-2: Disobedience
D-3: Deceit
D-4: Destruction

D-1: Disrespect—words, actions, tone, and/or expressions that do not show respect or submission to parents.

D-2: Disobedience—actions that are not fully obedient. Obedience means “Doing what you are told, when you are told, in the way you are told—with a good attitude.”

D-3: Deceit—lying, stealing, “fibbing,” speaking half truths, and covering for words and actions with “I was joking” or other concealment words.

D-4: Destruction—purposely breaking things or harming others.

Treat Behaviors Accordingly

(1) Foolishness/Heart Issues—4 D’s

a. Serious Treatment
b. Punishment
c. Heart Teaching and Training

(2) Childishness/Character Issues

a. Training
b. Rewards
c. Consequences*

*Consequences may be used with 4 D’s if parents have waited until child is tween or teen to begin this approach to parenting. If this is the case, the most severe, serious consequences should be reserved for foolishness/4 D’s.

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Podcast: Understanding the Four D’s of Behavior in Our Children—and Why You Need To

Donna — Wed, 30 Sep 2015 14:00:23 +0000

Donna Reish, from Character Ink (home of Raising Kids With Character, Homeschooling With Character, and Language Lady), answers listeners’ questions about the Four D’s of children’s behavior: (1) Disrespect; (2) Disobedience; (3) Deceit; (4) Destruction (purposeful breaking or harming). This episode lays the ground work for next week’s episode about punishing and disciplining tweens (especially ten to twelve year olds). Donna expounds on the Four D’s as foolishness and heart-motivated (which necessitate punishment and serious handling), contrasting these with childishness/character issues (which require training, rewards, and consequences).

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