{"id":906,"date":"2011-02-18T04:08:00","date_gmt":"2011-02-18T04:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/paradigm-7-who-did-god-intended-to-run-the-home-the-parents-or-the-children\/"},"modified":"2015-09-11T14:58:38","modified_gmt":"2015-09-11T18:58:38","slug":"paradigm-7-who-did-god-intended-to-run-the-home-the-parents-or-the-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/paradigm-7-who-did-god-intended-to-run-the-home-the-parents-or-the-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Paradigm #7: Who did God intended to run the home\u2014the parents or the children?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">This answer is easy on the surface. Of course, parents are supposed to run their homes\u2014not the children! However, we so easily fall into a trap of letting children run things in our homes rather than parents.<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">Oh, it\u2019s not intentional. None of us sets out in our parenting with the plan for the kids to run the show. We all have ideas that the parents will run things and the children will comply with the family rules and guidelines. Yet somehow, these dreams sometimes evaporate as we \u201cwalk on eggshells,\u201d \u201ctry to keep peace,\u201d and \u201cattempt to make our children happy and comfortable.\u201d<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">The Bible talks a lot about children being foolish, needing discipline, being ours for discipleship, being young and immature, being refreshingly na\u00efve, and more. It makes it clear that when children are children they \u201cthink as children.\u201d We all know that our kids were given to us to raise, care for, and train. Yet we sometimes lose sight of the fact that we truly do know what is best for our kids\u2014and not the kids themselves.<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">Case in point\u2014we know that it is safer for children to be in car seats (plus it\u2019s the law in most states). And we follow through\u2014even if they throw fits. <\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">We also know that children need a certain amount of sleep, healthy foods, medications when they are ill, clean water, and more. But many of us can\u2019t seem to carry out these things if a child protests too loudly that he does not want to go to bed (or stay in bed if he wakes up at five o\u2019clock in the morning), that she does not want to eat what we know she should, etc. And those protests often drive us to actually allow our children to run certain areas of our homes rather than we parents running them.<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">We will refer to these scenarios throughout this year as \u201cchild-controlled homes\u201d rather than \u201cparent-controlled homes.\u201d We have found that it is vital to the character training of our children for parents, not kids, to control the home. Once this is established in the early childhood years, other character training is so much easier. <\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\">And, believe it or not, kids are happier in parent-controlled homes&nbsp; than they are in child-controlled homes. They feel secure. They know the boundaries. They are safe. They are being guided by adults who adore them and would do anything to keep them safe and well. This environment, in which parents make decisions for the children until they are mature enough, is a \u201csafe haven\u201d for children to develop positive character in the years to come.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This answer is easy on the surface. Of course, parents are supposed to run their homes\u2014not the children! 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