see article HERE<\/a>), there were a few common threads that stood out to me as important for families to really drill down on as we are raising children.<\/p>\nThese can be summed up in a few key traits:<\/p>\n
A. Picking up on how others are feeling<\/strong><\/p>\nB. Listening to others<\/strong><\/p>\nC. Responding well to information, good and bad<\/strong><\/p>\nD. Empathy (not just seeing how others feel but feeling for them as well)<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
I love these so much! Not just because they turn out great adults, but also because they truly make a family successful.<\/p>\n
Here are some actions and habits we practiced in our home to help our kids develop this “emotional intelligence”–and make our home a more peaceful place:<\/p>\n
<\/h3>\nA. Picking up on how others are feeling<\/h3>\n
1) Asking them all the time with their siblings (and others): How do you think that made them feel?<\/p>\n
2) Having them find someone in church or a group who looked sad and talking to them\/cheering them up (especially the elderly).<\/p>\n
3) Having three kids in one bedroom and four in the other led to a lot of opportunities for conflict\u2014and teaching conflict resolution!<\/p>\n
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B. Listening to others<\/h3>\n
4) Having them listen to the other person\u2019s view of his own part to see if that\u2019s how they saw it too.<\/p>\n
5) Letting then tell us when they disagreed with us on something\u2014even though they still had to abide by our rule (unless the discussion led to a change in the rule, which it sometimes did)<\/p>\n
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C. Responding well to information, good and bad<\/h3>\n
6) Being available every night from toddlerhood for them to talk to\u2014and asking how they were feeling, the good and bad they had observed that day, etc.<\/p>\n
7) Having them tell us THEIR part in an altercation with siblings before they were allowed to tell us the other person\u2019s part.<\/p>\n
8) Discussing everything we read or listened to together (which was nearly a thousand chapter books and way over a thousand audios on repeat!).<\/p>\n
9) Giving expectations on the way to places so they would know appropriate behaviors and interactions based on environment, age of people there, and purpose for going.<\/p>\n
10) Discussing on our way home from places, at the dinner table, during family meetings, etc., how people they saw honored or dishonored others (especially their parents and siblings).<\/p>\n
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D. Honoring Others<\/h3>\n
11) Having key words and phrases that we used to show that others should come first (like “Reishes always ‘pick up some floor'”–meaning give our seats to others and find a seat on the floor)<\/p>\n
12) Graciously thanking our hostess, and, if appropriate praising or blessing her<\/p>\n
13) Discussing the needs of the elderly, small children, people with disabilities when we were going into situations with those people<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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