The Recipe for Rebellion<\/a> (Rules Without Reasons and Rules Without Response). In other words, they were talking to give reasons and talking (or not talking!) in order to allow a response.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Rules Without Repetition<\/h3>\n
The third ingredient in the Recipe for Rebellion is Rules Without Repetition. This ingredient deals with inconsistency in applying rules. (It would more aptly be called Rules Without Consistency, but then it wouldn\u2019t fit as well into our Recipe!)<\/p>\n
Talking all the time gives us the opportunity to avoid this ingredient\u2014to be repetitive and consistent in our family rules and ways.<\/p>\n
This ingredient points to the times our children comment, \u201cLast time you let me.\u201d It means that when a rule is a rule, it remains the rule (unless it is truly, permanently changed, and then the change is enforced on a consistent basis\u2014not a different rule or take on a rule each time).<\/p>\n
This ingredient harms our relationship with our children for many reasons:<\/p>\n
1. Inconsistency hinders many areas inconsistency will hinder a Christian in every area of his life.<\/h3>\n
Our testimonies, relationships, interactions with others, decisions, morals\u2013everything in our lives\u2013must have some semblance of consistency in order to be accepted by others.<\/p>\n
A young lady recently told one of my daughters that her parents are so inconsistent that she simply doesn\u2019t know what they want. One minute, she is allowed to date. Then when she begins dating someone they do not like, she is not permitted to go anywhere in a car with a boy.<\/p>\n
Inconsistency in rules will \u201cprovoke our children to wrath\u201d almost quicker than anything else. The guidelines we have for our family\u2019s lifestyle must have consistency in order for children to follow them. Our schedules need consistency, or our children will never heed them\u2013since they will change on a whim anyway.<\/p>\n
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2. Inconsistency Creates a Poor Testimony<\/h3>\n
Everyday we Christians hear people comment that they would never go to church because of the hypocrites. This is a long time problem that will likely never be solved since there will always be hypocrites\u2014and non-believers looking for hypocrites\u2013 in the church. Our inconsistent Christian living creates a poor testimony.<\/p>\n
With our children, it is even worse. Our inconsistency in parenting causes confusion, anger, and bitterness. Just like the girl told my daughter: \u201cOne day it is this rule, and the next day it is something different.\u201d<\/p>\n
Our children will not respect our rules if they are not consistently followed\u2013or if the reason for a rule is not consistent in developing other rules (i.e. \u201cone day I can date, the next day I can\u2019t be in a boy\u2019s car even with others there\u201d).<\/p>\n
It should be noted here that we do not believe that consistency in making and following rules means that you cannot change rules. You may decide to change a rule: through God revealing something to you; through a friend pointing out a blind spot; through discussion with your spouse; or even through the appeal process.<\/p>\n
Consistency does not mean that you never change anything. However, when a rule is changed, your children need to know it is so, and you need to be sure to be consistent in applying the \u201cnew\u201d rule.<\/p>\n
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So how does this rule apply to talking to our kids all the time?<\/h3>\n
When we talk to our kids all the time\u2014about everything, including our family\u2019s rules, ways, and specialness, we are setting our children up to expect consistency in our home.<\/p>\n
A rule or family way isn\u2019t something that we just came up with out of thin air. It is something that is a part of us. It is something that makes our family, our family.<\/p>\n
And we talk about those things all the time\u2014so that we foster that consistency in our family\u2014and so that our children trust us to be consistent.<\/p>\n
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