{"id":5023,"date":"2016-07-09T12:57:48","date_gmt":"2016-07-09T16:57:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?p=5023"},"modified":"2016-07-29T22:15:44","modified_gmt":"2016-07-30T02:15:44","slug":"52-week-talking-kids-good-report","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/52-week-talking-kids-good-report\/","title":{"rendered":"52 Weeks of Talking To Our Kids: When You Have a Good Report"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"52<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cJonathan, come in here.\u201d<\/p>\n

Daddy was home and was calling his fifth child, six year old Jonathan, into his room.<\/p>\n

But Jonathan wasn\u2019t concerned. He didn\u2019t think he was about to get into trouble. He didn\u2019t worry that he had done something wrong.<\/p>\n

He knew what Daddy wanted: to praise, affirm, and encourage him. Jonathan knew that he was about to hear the words that all of our kids waited to hear in the evenings:<\/p>\n

\u201cI heard a good report about you!\u201d<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Jonathan had done a typical Jonathan thing that day (besides play mightily, listen intently, and get distracted consistently\u2014he was, after all, a six year old boy!). He had slowed down in his race against his four year old brother to get each one\u2019s rack of the dishwasher unloaded. He had slowed down for one important reason\u2014to let Josiah win.<\/p>\n

And Mommy had noticed it. She had already picked him up and swirled and swirled him. She had already told him that she was proud of his selflessness. She had already told his siblings about his deference.<\/p>\n

And now Daddy was about to tell him how proud he was. He would say his famous words, \u201cJonathan, I heard a good report about you.\u201d Then he would tell the story again that Mommy had told Daddy on the phone that day. He would tell Jonathan that it made him so happy to see his little boy thinking of others. He would tell him how great it was to see him making Josiah feel special. He would tell him that God loves it when we put others ahead of ourselves.<\/p>\n

Daddy didn\u2019t swirl him. That was Mommy\u2019s gig. But Daddy used the magic words. And that was enough.<\/p>\n

This scene was a common one in our house. We had learned when our oldest was a little boy that public praise was worth double to children. That when parents talked about their kids\u2019 good behaviors in front of the kids and in front of others, it would have a lasting impact on the kids. And it always did.<\/p>\n

Obviously, to carry this out well, parents need to be in tune with each other, communicating often and parenting together. They need to go out of their way to find those good things that they can praise their children for. They need to be consistently teaching character so that when a good character is displayed, the kids know what the parents are talking about and why it is important.<\/p>\n

Another time to talk? Yes…but so much more than that. For all the times that I have discussed listening, asking questions, giving kids a chance to say what is on their hearts, this is one of those times when you should speak. And one of those times that kids love to listen!<\/p>\n

Lasting impact? That little six year old is now nearly twenty-four. He recently preached a sermon about heaven during his master\u2019s internship. Near the end of his sermon, he likened entering the gates of heaven and hearing the Lord proclaim, \u201cWell done, thou great and faithful servant\u201d to how it felt when he was a boy and his daddy would say the magic words, \u201cI heard a good report about you!\u201d<\/p>\n

Yep…this talk time can make a huge difference in your kids\u2019 lives. So use this \u201ctalk time\u201d often!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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