{"id":4169,"date":"2015-11-13T09:30:15","date_gmt":"2015-11-13T14:30:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?p=4169"},"modified":"2015-11-11T18:24:15","modified_gmt":"2015-11-11T23:24:15","slug":"podcast-notes-for-teens-the-recipe-for-rebellion-and-the-ingredients-for-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-notes-for-teens-the-recipe-for-rebellion-and-the-ingredients-for-intimacy\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast Notes for &#8220;Teens &#8211; The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a title=\"Teens: The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy\" href=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-notes-for-teens-the-recipe-for-rebellion-and-the-ingredients-for-intimacy\" rel=\"lightbox\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" title=\"Teens: The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy\" src=\"https:\/\/farm6.staticflickr.com\/5763\/22323886933_d690ffa090_z.jpg\" alt=\"Teens: The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy\" height=\"640\" width=\"640\"><\/a><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/character-training-with-routine-behaviors-with-the-consequence-pie\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3787\" src=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/play.png\" alt=\"play\" data-wp-pid=\"3787\" height=\"47\" width=\"48\" srcset=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/play.png 194w, https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/play-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/play-90x90.png 90w, https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/play-144x144.png 144w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 48px) 100vw, 48px\" \/><\/a><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-teens-the-recipe-for-rebellion-and-the-ingredients-for-intimacy\/\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Listen to the podcast here!<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/h3>\n<hr>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">Recipe for Rebellion<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"text-align: center;\">Rules Without Reasons<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: center;\">Rules Without Response<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: center;\">Rules Without Repetition<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: center;\">Rules Without Relationship<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<hr>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Rules Without Reasons<\/h2>\n<p>Replace this part of the recipe with explanations, teaching, and instructions that will stay with your children a lifetime.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why Tell Children the Reasons Why?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>1.<\/strong> It is how God deals with us.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>2.<\/strong> It helps our children \u201cown\u201d the lifestyle choices and rules we are making when we do.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>3.<\/strong> It is aggravating for the child if we do not.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ephesians 6:4 says, \u201cAnd you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Rules Without Response<\/h2>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>1.<\/strong> \u201cNo-Response-Allowed\u201d Is Aggravating!<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>\u201cFathers, don\u2019t aggravate your children, if you do they will become discouraged and quit trying\u201d Colossians 3:21 (NLT).<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>2.<\/strong> \u201cNo-Response-Allowed\u201d Handicaps Our Children in Their Future Decision Making<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>3.<\/strong> \u201cNo-Response-Allowed\u201d Is Not How God Treats Us!<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>4.<\/strong> \u201cNo-Response-Allowed\u201d Causes Our Children to Argue With Us<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Guidelines for the Appeal<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>1.<\/strong> Use the same key words all the time: \u201cMay I appeal?\u201d OR \u201cCan we talk about this?\u201d OR \u201cCan we discuss this further?\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>2.<\/strong> If the appeal is disrespectful or done in anger, it is turned down immediately.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3.<\/strong> If the appeal is a series of whines and complaints, rather than a truly godly appeal, it is turned down.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4.<\/strong> If a child begins disagreeing a lot or constantly trying to appeal, the appeal process is terminated for a period of time until that person learns to accept Mom and Dad\u2019s rules more often than not.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5.<\/strong> If the appeal process becomes an argument, it is ended.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6.<\/strong> If the person appealing is turned down, but later has more information (\u201cnew evidence\u201d), he may re-appeal that topic.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7.<\/strong> The appeal is truly listened to and thought through by Mom and Dad. Do not pretend to listen to appeals, but not regard your children\u2019s pleas. This is another \u201cRecipe for Rebellion\u201d in itself. (Kids know if the appeal process is just a formality and you are not truly listening to them.)<\/p>\n<p><strong>8.<\/strong> The person appealing is not constantly interrupted by Mom and Dad with justifications. The child should not be patronized during an appeal, but carefully listened to and respected.<\/p>\n<p><strong>9.<\/strong> Once the answer to the appeal is given, the matter must be dropped for the time being. Granted, it might need re-visited, but to continue the appeal once an answer is given is arguing, not appealing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>10.<\/strong> Parents must agree on the answer to the appeal at the time. Later, behind closed doors, discussion between Mom and Dad may need to take place, but in front of the child, a united front is imperative.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Rules Without Repetition<\/h2>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>1.<\/strong> Inconsistency Hinders Many Areas<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>2.<\/strong> Inconsistency Creates a Poor Testimony<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><strong>3.<\/strong> Causes our children to distrust us<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Rules Without Relationship<\/h2>\n<p>\u2192Most important \u201crecipe ingredient\u201d to get rid of! Relationship must be in place in order to keep our children from rebelling against us.<\/p>\n<p>In Philemon 1: 8-9, Paul told the people that he could have forced them to do what he wanted them to do (which is how some parents handle things), but instead he wanted to love them into doing what he asked: \u201c\u2026although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I appeal to you on the basis of love\u201d (NKJV).<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Recommended Resources<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Leman, Kevin. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0800731050\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0800731050&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=chaink-20&amp;linkId=SKL5MKJ5OEHUGNMY\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours. (affiliate link) <\/em><\/a>New York: Dell Publishing Company, 1987.<\/p>\n<p>Note: The Recipe for Rebellion and other teen information this week is being excerpted, in part, from our parenting book <em><a href=\"https:\/\/characterinkstore.com\/product\/the-well-trained-heart\/\" target=\"_blank\">The Well-Trained Heart.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Listen to the podcast here! &nbsp; Recipe for Rebellion Rules Without Reasons Rules Without Response Rules Without Repetition Rules Without Relationship<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[643,633,281],"tags":[912,906,10,867,905,513,271],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v19.5.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Podcast Notes for &quot;Teens - The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy&quot; - Character Ink<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-notes-for-teens-the-recipe-for-rebellion-and-the-ingredients-for-intimacy\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Podcast Notes for &quot;Teens - The Recipe for Rebellion and the Ingredients for Intimacy&quot; - Character Ink\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Listen to the podcast here! 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