{"id":3532,"date":"2015-08-28T10:00:34","date_gmt":"2015-08-28T14:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?p=3532"},"modified":"2015-08-27T18:16:08","modified_gmt":"2015-08-27T22:16:08","slug":"podcast-handout-for-how-do-i-get-my-children-to-see-work-at-home-in-a-positive-light","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-handout-for-how-do-i-get-my-children-to-see-work-at-home-in-a-positive-light\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast Handout for “How Do I Get My Children to See Work at Home in a Positive Light?”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"How<\/a><\/p>\n

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Listen to the podcast here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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I get asked a lot about getting kids on board. Helping them not to see chores as a means to an end (i.e. do chores, get computer time) but rather as something that builds the family up, that we do because we are unified in our love for our family, etc.<\/p>\n

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GOALS<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Spread housework and other tasks around so that they are shared work, not \u201cmom\u2019s.\u201d
\n2.<\/strong> Have children see that working at home is not something they \u201chave\u201d to do but rather something that we do for our family\u2014so that we can succeed in our family goals.
\n3.<\/strong> Teach children to \u201csee a need and meet it.\u201d Maximum efforts and help rather than minimal needed to get by.
\n4.<\/strong> Teach children to take full responsibility for tasks\u2014not just when asked or not just partial responsibility.
\n5.<\/strong> Have a working family who gets things done so that we can all pursue our other things\u2014and so that we have more time together.<\/p>\n

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General Starting Point Tips<\/strong><\/h3>\n

1.<\/strong> Change your vocabulary.<\/strong> Unless you are a full time homemaker with no small children, no outside job at all, and no children at home to homeschool (in which case you would be the unheard of full-time homemaker, and you probably should do the bulk of the housework since that is your \u201cjob\u201d), the work at home is not yours. It is everybody\u2019s.<\/p>\n

a.<\/strong> Not Mom\u2019s work
\nb.<\/strong> Not adult work
\nc.<\/strong> Not paid work (more on that later)<\/p>\n

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2.<\/strong> Consider how much household help the adults\/parents will do<\/strong> and how much needs to be done by children (for completion sake, not necessarily for character training sake).<\/p>\n

3.<\/strong> Have a plan before presenting it to children.<\/strong> (More later in post…) <\/p>\n

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Older Kids\/Kids Not Used to Much Work Around Home Right Now<\/strong><\/h3>\n

1. Apologize!<\/strong><\/p>\n

a.<\/strong> If you have let them down by not emphasizing family unity through working together.
\nb.<\/strong> If you have let them down by not expecting anything of them, thus, not character training in diligence, responsibility, thoroughness, etc.
\nc.<\/strong> If you have let them down by not preparing them for their future (both skill-wise and character training-wise)<\/p>\n

2. Brainstorm with them<\/strong>\u2014what do they think is appropriate work for teens with jobs, homeschooling, sports, etc.? How would they like to divide work?<\/p>\n

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3.<\/strong> Have a tentative plan in place<\/strong> (don\u2019t go into family meeting unprepared!).<\/p>\n

a.<\/strong> Start with personal spaces\u2014that each person, without pay or reward, is responsible for their own spaces and belongings.
\nb.<\/strong> Move to daily, regular, measurable, must-be-done to function on a day-by-day basis type of chores.
\nc.<\/strong> Plan for time to work together<\/p>\n

i. Finding joy in working together
\nii. Work times that are convenient for everybody
\niii. Harder projects together (teaching opportunities, skill building, etc.)<\/p>\n

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4. Appeal to them in love<\/strong><\/p>\n

a.<\/strong> New Living Translation: \u201cBut because of our love, I prefer simply to ask you.\u201d
\nb.<\/strong> New American Standard Version: \u201cYet for love’s sake I rather appeal to you.\u201d
\nc.<\/strong> King James: \u201cYet for love’s sake I rather beseech thee,\u201d<\/p>\n

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5. It might be a little late<\/strong> for them to see the full benefit of this new approach (and see their work as part of a great family thing). If that is the case, for their character training and your sanity, put SOMETHING in place, get unified as parents, implement a visible plan, and do it anyway.<\/p>\n

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Younger Kids (the Younger, the Better)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

1. Start out with a family mentality<\/strong>\u2014we have the best family, our family works together, we love to help and support each other<\/p>\n

2. Start out with a positive mentality about work<\/strong><\/p>\n

a.<\/strong> Work gets things done
\nb.<\/strong> Getting work done gives us more time together and more time for other things
\nc.<\/strong> Working hard is a good trait to have; it is sought after; praise hard work<\/p>\n

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3. Start out with the concept that work at home is everybody\u2019s work<\/strong>\u2014we all dirty the dishes, we all soil the clothes, we all eat the food: While Mom and Dad are in charge, we all need to do our part to to keep the home running.<\/p>\n

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4. Have work sessions together<\/strong> with the reward at the end of the family doing something fun together<\/p>\n

5. Model<\/strong> how fast something can be done<\/p>\n

6. Show<\/strong> them the math on how \u201cmany hands make light the work\u201d<\/p>\n

7. Have daily work spread out<\/strong> and show how it helps the entire family function<\/p>\n

8. Expectation Explanations<\/strong>\u2014CLEAR\u2014chore chart, etc.<\/p>\n

9. Talk<\/strong> about\/approach chores from a family unity standpoint and not from a \u201cmust do\u201d or \u201cnagging\u201d view<\/p>\n

10. Make everybody\u2019s work<\/strong> a part of your life just like their grooming, etc.<\/p>\n

11. Make work fun<\/strong>\u2014museum trips, ice cream….reward family work with family things<\/p>\n

12. Help children see that they are gaining skills<\/strong>\u2014praise their skill building and diligence<\/p>\n

13. Bible\/character training<\/strong>\u2014diligence, responsibility, resourcefulness, thoroughness, etc.:
\na.<\/strong> Great family devo\/character training site<\/a> (also good for Sunday school, children\u2019s church, etc.) 
\nb.<\/strong> Twenty-four character qualities with their definitions, verses to study, Bible characters who demonstrated it, animals, etc., to use for family character studies…click here<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

14. Praise<\/strong> for skill building and character in work<\/p>\n

15. Home improvement,<\/strong> kitchen, and cleaning purchases as a family when appropriate<\/p>\n

16. Time management<\/strong><\/p>\n

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