{"id":3363,"date":"2015-07-31T01:00:05","date_gmt":"2015-07-31T05:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?p=3363"},"modified":"2015-07-30T14:59:22","modified_gmt":"2015-07-30T18:59:22","slug":"podcast-notes-how-do-i-know-when-to-give-chances-and-when-to-take-action-when-to-give-our-kids-a-mulligan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/podcast-notes-how-do-i-know-when-to-give-chances-and-when-to-take-action-when-to-give-our-kids-a-mulligan\/","title":{"rendered":"Podcast Notes: “How Do I Know When to Give Chances and When to Take Action: When to Give Our Kids a Mulligan”"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Listen to the podcast here!<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Grace-Based Parenting<\/h3>\n

1.<\/strong> Good thing!
\n2.<\/strong> Allows kids four freedoms<\/p>\n

a. Freedom to be different
\nb. Freedom to be vulnerable
\nc. Freedom to be open
\nd. Freedom to make mistakes<\/p>\n

3.<\/strong> Giving kids grace doesn\u2019t mean there are not
\nconsequences or that we do not correct our kids
\n4.<\/strong> Means that our relationship is never at risk due to their behavior
\n5.<\/strong> Means our love never changes based on the freedoms we give them (above)<\/p>\n

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Problem Isn\u2019t With Grace-Based Parenting; Problem With People\u2019s Interpretation of It<\/h3>\n

1.<\/strong> Misunderstanding it\u2014thinking it means anything goes or hands off parenting
\n2.<\/strong> Misusing it\u2014just like we mishandle God\u2019s grace towards us, we mishandle the grace we give our kids<\/p>\n

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Bottom Line in Grace-Based Parenting (and Raising Kids With Character!):<\/strong> Treat our children the same way that God treats us<\/p>\n

Definition Mulligan:<\/strong> an informal golf terms that means giving an extra stroke after a poor shot that is not counted against the golfer<\/p>\n

Walleyball-<\/strong>–played in racquetball court; smaller court than volleyball; walls to hit it off of and walls\/ceiling to be \u201cout\u201d<\/p>\n

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Mulligans in Our Walleyball Game<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Younger Niece; small; had trouble with serves
\n2.<\/strong> Sister: frozen shoulder surgery
\n3.<\/strong> Daughter: inexperienced player<\/p>\n

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No Mulligans<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Me: High school (albeit not great!) volleyball player
\n2.<\/strong> Daughter-in-law: high school and college volleyball player
\n3.<\/strong> Son: seventeen year old hot dogging it
\n4.<\/strong> Teen\/college guys and husbands<\/p>\n

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What to Do With Kids\u2019 Behaviors<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Grace?
\n2.<\/strong> Training?
\n3.<\/strong> Mercy?
\n4.<\/strong> Responsibility?<\/p>\n

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Mulligans in Life<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Niece\u2014smaller; give to child who is struggling or weak
\n2.<\/strong> Sister\u2014injured; give to child who is injured but not forever
\n3.<\/strong> Daughter\u2014inexperienced; give to a chld who is in training<\/p>\n

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No Mulligans in Life?<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> Strong people
\n2.<\/strong> Those who are in need of \u201creality training\u201d (hot dogging it)
\n3.<\/strong> Those who are already well trained in area<\/p>\n

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Print this post here<\/strong>!<\/a><\/p>\n

Listen to the podcast here!<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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