{"id":1055,"date":"2010-10-08T03:45:00","date_gmt":"2010-10-08T03:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/"},"modified":"2015-06-05T15:09:55","modified_gmt":"2015-06-05T19:09:55","slug":"day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/","title":{"rendered":"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/span>

<\/span>
If you have young children, be assured that the decisions you make today in your parenting (to be in control or let the child be in control) have a huge impact on your child\u2019s future behavior. Bad behavior does not change on its own. The child does not \u201cgrow out of it.\u201d Look around at peers with kids older than yours. If these moms and dads began with this permissive, child-controlled parenting, have their children \u201coutgrown\u201d it and started to obey and respect for some odd reason?<\/span>

<\/span>
Starting out with the boundaries established for your little one, with parents who truly believe their children were given to them to raise for God\u2019s glory, makes a world of difference in every aspect of a child\u2019s life. After all, if we genuinely believe that our children were given specifically to us to raise in a Christian manner for the Lord, we would never let our children be disrespectful, mean, hateful, etc. We would constantly have the awareness that I need to parent as the Lord would have me parent\u2014and He would not want me to allow my child to grow up behaving like that.<\/span>

<\/span>
We all want our children to be happy, of course. Unfortunately, the desire to have our children be \u201ccomfortable and happy\u201d has trumped the desire to raise our children in a biblical, Christ-centered way, in many cases. This is sad because allowing our children to have their own way all the time is so counter-productive\u2014and does not result in children who desire to please their parents, or eventually, to please other authorities, including God Himself.<\/span>

<\/span>
I write about this so much because I want you to enjoy your kids, love parenting, develop good habits, and create a strong, Christian family. It starts right here. Our kids were never perfect. However, I can honestly say that this approach to parenting has made all the difference in our enjoyment of parenting\u2014and even the enjoyment of our children, to a large extent. Our toddlers and preschoolers (even our strong-willed child, eventually!) were joys to us and everybody around them. (Most of the time!) It\u2019s truly about having the proper person in control in the toddler years\u2014and widening the boundaries (more on that to come in the next few days) as the child is ready. Oh, and tons of love, hugs, kisses, snuggles, stories, playtime, and more!<\/span>

<\/span>
Tomorrow and beyond: benchmarks for knowing when the boundaries have been widened too much too soon, how to bring the boundaries back in, and \u201cis it too late?\u201d<\/span>

<\/span>

<\/span>

<\/span>
Note: The scenarios in today and yesterday\u2019s posts with eight, ten, and twelve month old children include controlling the child through holding him until his fit subsides, removing the child from the situation, and making the toddler stay in his crib until he quits screaming. We did not spank toddlers at those young ages; thus, we used these techniques to train the child to submit to our authority. Seldom would an eight month old make the connection between a spanking and screaming during nap time. We do not recommend spanking at those early ages.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you have young children, be assured that the decisions you make today in your parenting (to be in control or let the child be in control) have a huge impact on your child\u2019s future behavior. Bad behavior does not change on its own. The child does not \u201cgrow out of it.\u201d Look around at […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[643,308],"tags":[307,106,310],"yoast_head":"\nday 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"If you have young children, be assured that the decisions you make today in your parenting (to be in control or let the child be in control) have a huge impact on your child\u2019s future behavior. Bad behavior does not change on its own. The child does not \u201cgrow out of it.\u201d Look around at […]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Character Ink\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany?ref=bookmarks\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2010-10-08T03:45:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2015-06-05T19:09:55+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Donna\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Donna\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/\",\"name\":\"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2010-10-08T03:45:00+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2015-06-05T19:09:55+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/801ef5fa0749f7c8c379e32c743fba64\"},\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/\",\"name\":\"Character Ink\",\"description\":\"Home of the Language Lady & Cottage Classes!\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/801ef5fa0749f7c8c379e32c743fba64\",\"name\":\"Donna\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/a34d703c1b470108b3e0674490546317?s=96&d=blank&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/a34d703c1b470108b3e0674490546317?s=96&d=blank&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Donna\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany?ref=bookmarks\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/author\/cqlalady\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink","og_description":"If you have young children, be assured that the decisions you make today in your parenting (to be in control or let the child be in control) have a huge impact on your child\u2019s future behavior. Bad behavior does not change on its own. The child does not \u201cgrow out of it.\u201d Look around at […]","og_url":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/","og_site_name":"Character Ink","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany\/","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany?ref=bookmarks","article_published_time":"2010-10-08T03:45:00+00:00","article_modified_time":"2015-06-05T19:09:55+00:00","author":"Donna","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Donna","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/","url":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/","name":"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii - Character Ink","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#website"},"datePublished":"2010-10-08T03:45:00+00:00","dateModified":"2015-06-05T19:09:55+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/801ef5fa0749f7c8c379e32c743fba64"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/day-263-the-concept-of-our-childrens-boundaries-part-ii-of-ii\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"day 263: the concept of our children\u2019s \u201cboundaries\u201d part ii of ii"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#website","url":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/","name":"Character Ink","description":"Home of the Language Lady & Cottage Classes!","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/801ef5fa0749f7c8c379e32c743fba64","name":"Donna","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/a34d703c1b470108b3e0674490546317?s=96&d=blank&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/a34d703c1b470108b3e0674490546317?s=96&d=blank&r=g","caption":"Donna"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/characterinkcompany?ref=bookmarks"],"url":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/author\/cqlalady\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1055"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1055"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1055\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2894,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1055\/revisions\/2894"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1055"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1055"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/characterinkblog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1055"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}