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Grace-Based Parenting
1. Good thing!
2. Allows kids four freedoms
a. Freedom to be different
b. Freedom to be vulnerable
c. Freedom to be open
d. Freedom to make mistakes
3. Giving kids grace doesn’t mean there are not
consequences or that we do not correct our kids
4. Means that our relationship is never at risk due to their behavior
5. Means our love never changes based on the freedoms we give them (above)
Problem Isn’t With Grace-Based Parenting; Problem With People’s Interpretation of It
1. Misunderstanding it—thinking it means anything goes or hands off parenting
2. Misusing it—just like we mishandle God’s grace towards us, we mishandle the grace we give our kids
Bottom Line in Grace-Based Parenting (and Raising Kids With Character!): Treat our children the same way that God treats us
Definition Mulligan: an informal golf terms that means giving an extra stroke after a poor shot that is not counted against the golfer
Walleyball-–played in racquetball court; smaller court than volleyball; walls to hit it off of and walls/ceiling to be “out”
Mulligans in Our Walleyball Game
1. Younger Niece; small; had trouble with serves
2. Sister: frozen shoulder surgery
3. Daughter: inexperienced player
No Mulligans
1. Me: High school (albeit not great!) volleyball player
2. Daughter-in-law: high school and college volleyball player
3. Son: seventeen year old hot dogging it
4. Teen/college guys and husbands
What to Do With Kids’ Behaviors
1. Grace?
2. Training?
3. Mercy?
4. Responsibility?
Mulligans in Life
1. Niece—smaller; give to child who is struggling or weak
2. Sister—injured; give to child who is injured but not forever
3. Daughter—inexperienced; give to a chld who is in training
No Mulligans in Life?
1. Strong people
2. Those who are in need of “reality training” (hot dogging it)
3. Those who are already well trained in area
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