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FOUR D’s OF BEHAVIOR: Heart-motivated behaviors that should not be grouped with childish behaviors but should be tended to in a consistent and heart-affecting manner.
D-1: Disrespect
D-2: Disobedience
D-3: Deceit
D-4: Destruction
D-1: Disrespect—words, actions, tone, and/or expressions that do not show respect or submission to parents.
D-2: Disobedience—actions that are not fully obedient. Obedience means “Doing what you are told, when you are told, in the way you are told—with a good attitude.”
D-3: Deceit—lying, stealing, “fibbing,” speaking half truths, and covering for words and actions with “I was joking” or other concealment words.
D-4: Destruction—purposely breaking things or harming others.
Treat Behaviors Accordingly
(1) Foolishness/Heart Issues—4 D’s
a. Serious Treatment
b. Punishment
c. Heart Teaching and Training
(2) Childishness/Character Issues
a. Training
b. Rewards
c. Consequences*
*Consequences may be used with 4 D’s if parents have waited until child is tween or teen to begin this approach to parenting. If this is the case, the most severe, serious consequences should be reserved for foolishness/4 D’s.
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