Consider Behavior First
- Readiness to learn formally is more than just “academic readiness”
- Behavior problems of the preschool days will get carried into school work
(Having a school schedule does help behaviors some, but will not solve them entirely.)
- The trouble you might be having getting teeth brushed or coming to breakfast, etc., will
only be exacerbated by adding “come to school table” or “do seatwork” or “listen.”
So first solve behavior issues—Tips and Links
1. Link: In general, I have dozens of preschool posts that apply to the four to six year old age range. These run the gamut from morning routines to story time to bringing in behavior boundaries. If you have a five year old who does not obey, will not cooperate with general commands and instructions (brushing teeth, unloading dishwasher, or sitting down for stories, etc.), you might want to scroll through this list.
2. Link: Specifically, posts about lack of cooperation and getting the five year old on board for obedience and decent schedules can be found :here:
3. When I am trying to solve a problem in my schedule or routine, I try to work on the first hour of the day (for me personally), the same thing is true of our littles. Before starting formal school, I recommend getting the morning routine down pat. This will help him learn cooperation in other areas of the day—and will make the day run so much smoother. Keep in mind that it doesn’t matter what time this morning routine takes place (seven or nine) or even if the times are the same every day—just so the order, expectations, and consequences are always consistent. Here are some helps for this.
4. Other unacceptable behaviors should be handled quickly and seriously (not “don’t hit” but rather no more friends, play dates, staying up later to watch a family movie, etc., until you are “strike free” for a week, etc.). Be firm and consistent with Four D’s—they are not character issue that you should “train” in and reward. They are serious and should be treated serious. Read “Discerning Between the 4D’s of Behavior and Childishness”.
5. Determine your family’s behavior absolutes (if you have not already done so). These are the behaviors or character that you absolutely will not allow in your home. What you allow now will become the “acceptable behaviors” to your child. These seemingly innocent actions include “fibbing,” hitting, etc. For our family, these include talking back, saying no to parent, lying or deceit, temper tantrums, and striking.
General Expectations for a Kindergarten Child
- Obedience. Take it from an old mama—school is so much better with a six year old in kindergarten who obeys than it is with a five year old in kindergarten who doesn’t obey.
- Morning routine. If our kids couldn’t do a simple morning routine chart of making their beds, grooming, putting away their own toys and books, “reading” a picture Bible (or doing a Bible book and audio set), and getting completely ready for the day without a big fuss, I didn’t do bookwork with them.
- Chores. Once a five year old is known for first time obedience and following through on his morning routine, I add chores to his schedule. You can read more about developing chores for this age group here.
- Room time. I believe room time has so many educational benefits, namely those of increasing a child’s concentration, creativity, independence, and risk taking (all found to be important factors in studies about children who were “natural readers”–that is, they learned to read without instruction–this is important because if it helps a child become a natural reader, it can also help a child become a good reader in general). You can find out more about room time here.
- Bible time. I would have the kindergartener join us for Bible time as well as having a “little kids” Bible time during the morning. I liked to put this after morning routine and chores, so we had an order that put character and faith before academics. It might work better for some to do it during story time.
- Informal learning time. We had an adage that “we would never teach a young child anything formally that could be taught informally.” Therefore, when it came to pre-reading and pre-math skills, we were extremely diligent to “teach while we are in the way with them.” In other words, rhyming words, initial consonant sounds, ending consonant sounds, letter recognition, beginning math concepts (counting, recognizing numbers, less than/greater than, and much more) can all be taught informally, and we did. We also used picture books, puzzles, games, manipulatives, audios, videos, computer games, felt activities, toys, blocks….anything! I recommend building this time into a kindergarteners day–either through room time or through a learning center or table time where activities are set up for him, etc.
- Formal learning. We only used workbooks with our five, six, and seven year old (non-readers) when they were set on numbers one through six above–and only if the child wanted them and enjoyed them. There are colorful, wonderful kindergarten workbooks available through Timberdoodle.
Formal Learning Tips for This Age:
a. If your kindergarten student is ready to learn to read, I don’t recommend using a complete kindergarten/first grade curriculum to do this. Learning to read doesn’t need to take three to five years. If you get a good program, a child can learn to read in three to six months if readiness is in place. Get a good phonics program that teaches reading only (i.e. not complete language arts at this level) and use a word family phonics approach combined with readers. Some of my reading program reviews are found at Raising Kids With Character for Phonics Tutor and Saxon Reading.
b. If you do want to get an entire kindergarten program, do not get a textbook-driven approach. Again, Timberdoodle has wonderful preschool and kindergarten programs with many hands on and fun activities included.
c. Make kindergarten fun. If I had kindergarten to do over again, I would do all of the tips above and get Timberdoodle’s kindergarten fun things, a colorful math program that has manipulatives (Math-U-See and/or Saxon kindergarten math are very hands on!), and Five in a Row (and choose the activities that you want to do and leave the rest). But again, I would only do that after the first six things above are met!
Other Podcasts That Might Interest You:
How Do I Prepare My Child to Learn to Read?
Story Time With Littles and Very Littles
Listen to the “What Should I Do With a Kindergartener?” podcast here!
