“Penny for Your Thoughts”
“What ya thinkin’?”
“Tell me everything…..”
“Talk to me; show me that you care. Talk to me…I’ll listen to the words you say….You know I love you when I talk to you!”
Those were sayings/songs/sentiments I would say to my kids to get them to talk. They were used to me saying them….I had said them forever.
They usually WANTED to talk….
In part because we started when they were very young…
And in part because I was AVAILABLE! Always available….
(No television, computers, internet, smart phones, etc. for twenty-five years gives you a lot more time…oh to go back to “the good old days”!)
I did a Donna Daily video on Mama Monday about talking….
5 Key Times to be exact.
Here’s the video…and, of course, the outline! I’d love to hear your favorite talk times….email me or message me and tell me!
Love and hope,
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A. Start Now—Regardless of Where You Are!
1. Don’t think littles are too young
a. If you make talking a normal thing to them, they will always seek you out, always answer your questions, and always want your input.
b. Talk to them now—they’ll talk to you later!
2. Don’t think it’s too late
a. Might take more time, work, effort, and “detective work”—but still worth it.
b. Take different approaches
B. Five Key Times to Talk
1. Tucking in
a. “Malachi Time”
b. You tuck them in when they’re little; they’ll tuck you in when they’re older
c. Don’t be glad your teen went to their room early!
d. If they know they’ll have this time with you, they will save up things they need to discuss.
2. In the vehicle
a. “Who has their shoes on?”
b. Be careful using drive time for podcasts and phone calls
c. Be careful allowing kids to be on devices during drive time
d. Call it something “Talk and Drive” or “Road Talks” or something that indicates you are available when you’re in the vehicle with them
3. Table Talk
a. Have dinner together “more often than not”
b. Make it a tech free time
c. Have talking prompts
i. Two roses and one thorn
ii. One great and one bad
iii. Good character I saw today
iv. Cards you draw
v. Read a quote or verse and discuss
vi. Question that gets answered by everyone around the table
vii. Use kids’ faves to ask favorites questions
4. “My Day” or “Day Away”
a. Kids remember to this day!
b. Let them choose what to do
c. Let them know you are available
d. Talk, talk, talk! And don’t put down or reprimand
e. One on one with both parents idea/spin off of this: Half birthday celebrations at restaurants with just the three of you
5. Activities Together
a. Art, cooking, exercising
b. Magazine Moments With Mom (MMM) 😊
c. Use little snatches of meal prep, grilling together, biking together, etc.
d. Driver’s training
C. Availability—Your Secret Parenting Weapon!
1. Make yourself available
2. Change your schedule
3. Drop the busy-ness!
4. Implement heart-focused parenting that is needed to raise kids today!
1. Podcast: Ways to Spend More Time With Your Kids http://characterinkblog.com/podcast-ways-to-spend-more-time-with-your-kids/
2. Podcast:Tips for Staying Close to Kids During Intense Training Times: http://characterinkblog.com/podcast-ten-tips-for-staying-close-during-intense-training-times/
3. Article: Four Things Teens and Young Adults Need: https://characterinkblog.com/?s=Four+things+teens+and+young+adults+need
4. Article: Teaching Kids to Ask Questions: https://characterinkblog.com/52-weeks-of-talking-to-our-kids-when-its-time-to-ask-questions/
5. Video: Affirmation Cards: https://characterinkblog.com/52-ways-say-triff-affirmation-cards-families/
6. Keep Kids Close Cards: https://characterinkstore.com/product/keep-close-coupons/