We would love to come to your area with our Homeschooling With Character parenting seminar. This seminar is flexible to meet the needs of homeschool groups everywhere. Here are some details for you:
It’s that time of year already! That time when we start considering where and how often we will travel to speak in the spring and summer. We haven’t been traveling as much the past few years as we have been working hard to first of all revise Character Quality Language Arts (CQLA) (finished four years ago) and now to revise and complete the entire series of Meaningful Composition. These two projects have been super expensive and time consuming and left few resources or energy for a lot of traveling and speaking.
We are hoping to get back out there more in 2016, and we would love to come to your area with our Raising Kids With Character parenting seminar. This seminar is flexible and has been widely received! We love helping parents with parenting—and this seminar lets us do that on a larger scale.
It has been important to us in our child training that we understand (or at least try to understand!) the difference between foolishness (willfulness) and childishness (underdeveloped character). The differences between these two types of behaviors in children are crucial in disciplining properly. This is truly one of the biggest mistakes that we see parents make. For example:
(1) A child who spilled his milk at the table is disciplined in the same manner as he was earlier in the day when he struck his brother
(2) A child who forgot to shut the door and the dog got in the house is disciplined in the same manner as he was when he talked back to his mother
(3) A child who didn’t thoroughly clean his room is disciplined in the same manner as he was earlier when he lied to his dad about using one of this tools
In our child training, Ray and I have tried to determine whether a behavior was rebellion against us (as in outright disobedience or disrespect) or childishness (as in forgetfulness, procrastination, sloppiness, etc.):
a. Undeveloped or underdeveloped character
b. Forgetfulness, procrastination, irresponsibility, etc.
c. May turn into “foolishness” if left unattended
We do this because disobedience requires biblical discipline whereas childishness requires the second aspect of child training we have used: reality discipline (or consequences).
I like what an attendee at a recent seminar told us that she heard about this topic: Punishment is only for the Four D’s:
1. Disobedience (i.e. not forgetfulness or overlooking routine at first)
2. Disrespect (i.e. direct disrespect to parents or those in authority–not disagreeing with you respectfully or having their own thoughts!)
3. Deceit (lying, stealing, telling half truths, etc.)
4. Destruction (purposely hurting things or people)
Which Behavior Is This?
Discerning between disobedience and childishness can be so difficult! Even after nearly thirty-one years of parenting, Ray and I still continuously ask each other which behavior a child is displaying.
Difficult or not, we must do it. The Bible says that we are not to exasperate our children. Two sure ways to exasperate them are to punish incorrectly, as in anger, etc., and to punish something as disobedience, when we should be training through consequences.
All parents are faced with this. A child dawdles when we call him to come get ready for bed, and we wonder whether this is just childishness or if it is real disobedience. When our son leaves the dog out of the kennel for the third night in a row, and the pooch potties on the new carpet, we ask ourselves if our little guy is disobeying or forgetting.
In a nutshell , if a child is disobedient, disrespectful, or rebellious, we have a heart issue—and a serious discipline problem that needs handled in a serious manner—and quickly. That is, the Four D’s need punishment/chastisement, not consequences or reality discipline.
If a child is forgetful, slow, unreliable, etc. (especially a younger child), it is usually childishness—and we can “train” that undeveloped or underdeveloped childishness out of a child through consequences and reality discipline.
Besides disciplining these two types of behaviors correctly, we also need to watch our response to these behaviors. Simply put, not putting the hose back in the garage after the child watered the garden should not be met with the same response by the parent as lying about putting the hose back in the garage!
It is like responding to a child’s red streak in her hair in the same way as we do if that child uses God’s name in vain. There is simply no comparison. And the same should be true in our response to childishness vs one of the Four D’s.
For more information on this, please check out Discipline at our blog–or host a Raising Kids With Character seminar in your church or parenting group or homeschooling group. (Our RKWC seminar is a Christian parenting seminar for all Christian parents as opposed to our homeschooling workshops that we do for homeschool groups. All parents, homeschooling or not, can benefit from Raising Kids With Character!)
Tomorrow we will continue our “Eleven Daily Habits of ’11.” Today I would like to share more about our upcoming seminar. If you live near us, please join us! Or if you would like to host one in your church or community, contact us to set one up.
This weekend we will be holding our first “Character Training From the Heart” seminar near Bluffton, Indiana. It’s not too late to register…and we will accept walk ins!
The seminar will be held at Murray Missionary Church on Friday from 7:00-9:00 pm and Saturday from 9:00-12:00 (noon). It is a Christian parenting seminar for parents of children ages birth to fourteen or so. (We are not doing the tween and teen afternoon workshops for this particular seminar.)
You may register by emailing us your info (and pay $10 per person at the door) to firstname.lastname@example.org or you may just come!
We are so excited about this seminar! Please post this on your FB wall and/or copy and paste it into emails to send to your groups! We love having the opportunity to share the incredible teaching we have received through the years on Christian parenting–and our successses and mistakes (!).
If you do not feel equipped to discipline, teach, and train your children in character and living for Christ–starting with child discipline of little ones on into heart training of older ones–this seminar is for you!
Allow me to give you a sneak peek at the sessions.
Session I….Friday 7:00-8:00 The Five W’s of Character Training—Who, What, When, Where, and Why
Session II…Friday 8:00-9:00 The How’s of Character Training—an Overview
Session III….Friday 9:00-10:00 Starting Out Right—Avoiding Child Controlled Home, Outward vs. Inward Control of Behavior, and Babies and Toddlers
Session IV…Saturday 9:00-10:00 The Early Qualities for 3-6 Year Olds
Session V….Saturday 10:00-11:00 Character Qualities for Kids 6-12 Years
Session VI…Saturday 11:00-12:00 More Character Qualities for Kids and Transitioning From “Child” Training to “Heart” Training (cont’d 6-12+ years)
And, if you think of us, pray. The week of a seminar or convention is always stressful for our family, especially the “first” of one (which is sort of what this one is as we seek to combine/streamline sessions we have done in IL, OH, IN, and FL). We always have many opportunities to practice our teaching that week at home! Smile…
We are excited about our upcoming Character Training From the Heart seminars! We have not published an RSVP date–and as long as we have the minimum number of registrants, people can even register the week of it or “walk in.” However, in order to secure the facility and sound help, etc. we need to have our minimum number registered this weekend.
SO….if you are planning to come, please contact us at (260-597-7415) soon! We would love to have you!
Note: You may also register by postal mail by sending us your name, address, phone number, and email address, along with $10 per person registration fee to
Training for Triumph
6456 E US 224
Craigville, IN 46731
JANUARY— Murray Missionary Church, 1117 N. Washington Street, Murray (near Bluffton)—Friday, Jan 21st and Saturday, Jan 22nd
Note: We will be holding one near Fort Wayne next month as well: FEBRUARY— Oak Grove Church of God in Columbia City, Indiana (near Fort Wayne)—Friday, Feb 18th and Saturday, Feb 19th (with a snow postponement date of the 25th and 26th)
Both of these will be general Christian parenting seminars (not specific to homeschoolers only) focusing on character training from toddlerhood through about age twelve. Sessions go in chronological order, age-wise, by character quality (with 45 min sessions and 10 min breaks between), so parents may choose the ones that pertain to them if they are unable to attend all of the seminar.
*Friday night and half day Saturday—7:00-10:00 on Friday and 9:00-12:00 on Saturday
FRIDAY NIGHT SCHEDULE
7:00-8:00 –OVERVIEW: The Why’s and How’s of Character Training: The Importance of Character Training, Modeling, Developing Good Family Habits, and More
8:00-9:00–The Early Qualities in Toddlers and Preschoolers: Contentment, Obedience, Cheerfulness, and Submission
9:00-10:00–Laying the Foundation for All Qualities for All Ages: Focus on Obedience and Submission; Child Discipline; Three Aspects of Parenting—The 3 P’s of Parening: Proactive, Positive, and Punishing
SATURDAY MORNING SCHEDULE
9:00-10:00—Helping Our Children Add Virtue to Their Lives: Link Between Foundational Qualities and “Higher Level” Qualities; Helping Children Gain Their Own Moral/Character Compass; The Next Qualities
10:00-11:00—From Obedience to Initiative: Responsibility, Helpfulness, Kindness, Respect, and Honesty
11:00-12:00 Growing in Character: Initiative, Deference, Resourcefulness, Diligence, Promptness, Empathy, and More
Contact us for registration information for either seminar at 260-597-7415 or email@example.com
If you cannot make one of these two seminars, but would like to host one in your area, check out the details at Character Training From the Heart! Lastly, subscribe to receive our parenting blog in 2011(Positive Parenting 365) —we will be doing months of character training teaching in the new year!