Rules Without Relationship is the final ingredient—and probably the most critical of all of the ingredients to avoid. (Of course, without relationship, we as parents have no desire or motivation to try to explain rules, listen to their appeals, or remain consistent in our parenting.) Relationship must be in place in order to keep our children from rebelling against us.
1. How they see your relationship
2. The words you use
a. About relationships
b. About males, females, and sexuality
3. Expectation Explanations
In this Wondering Wednesday podcast episode, Donna Reish (author of sixty curriculum books, Raising Kids With Character parenting seminar, and the Book-Movie-Book line up of readers) answers a reader’s question about helping our children navigate relationships with the opposite sex. Specifically, Donna describes the importance of laying a foundation for your family’s beliefs and approach to relationships at various ages early on; of spending quality (and quantity!) time with your children to find out what is going on in their hearts; of protecting your children from groups in which they will find it too difficult to stand alone; of encouraging outstanding friendships; having a game plan that you refer to often; and much more!
Make your home a center—a center for learning, a center for growing up together, a center for spiritual formation, a center for relationship building, a center for caring—and your kids will know that you want to spend time with them. There is nothing that can stop a child who knew his parents loved to be with him!
Donna Reish, Character Ink Press author of fifty language arts/writing curriculum books and co-author/presenter of Raising Kids With Character parenting seminar (and blog), presents suggestions on how to spend more time with your kids in the upcoming year. On this Wondering Wednesday podcast episode, Donna answers parents questions about how to squeeze in more “kid time” in the midst of busy-ness, how to make each child feel special in large families, and more. Drawing on thirty-three years of parenting experience of seven children (ages seventeen to thirty-three) in a family in which both Mom and Dad have spent countless hours building strong relationships with their kids, Donna brings insights on this topic from very young to young adults.